Thursday, May 17, 2012

I'm calling you out...

You guys know I don't usually do this. I maintain a very positive and happy atmosphere here at Everything According to Erin. I do that because drama in the blog world is...well let's face's dumb. Also, I never intended this blog to be about my rants and what irritates me. This blog is an extension of me, what I like, sometimes what I don't like (mostly in terms of products), what I do and what I want to do.

Recently, I've witnessed some things going on in the blog world that are down right irritating me. And to be honest, I've kept my mouth shut long enough. It's time to blow off some steam.

#1 - This has only happened to me once, but I know that it's happened to a bunch of other people. Don't promise what you can't deliver. I'm speaking in terms of giveaways. I won a giveaway from a blogger who shall remain nameless (even though I want to call her slimy butt out) earlier this year. I was supposed to win a scentsy candle which was sponsored by another blogger (which I received and loved) AND a really nice gift basket full of products I really wanted to try. I received the scentsy and NEVER received the gift basket. So I checked in with the blogger who was super apologetic and was apparently shocked I never received it. Long story short, we exchanged 3 emails back and forth with her giving me excuse after excuse. Finally I said, at this point please don't worry about it because it's obviously not going to happen. She never replied. I stopped following her on everything and that's been that.

I'm sorry, but that's ridiculous. You have a giveaway, you come through. Enough said. I know things happen out of your control, but if someone was supposed to receive something from me and I wasn't the one sending it (like if it was from a sponsor) you best be sure I'd do whatever I can to make it up to that person. 

#2 - A few weeks ago, I posted about my issue with Photobucket changing their collage app so I asked for your help. A lot of you sent me some ideas and that was great thank you. I also reached out to other bloggers when I saw they were using collages on their sites. Wanna know how many got back to me? 2. I probably reached out to at least 10 other bloggers. I should have known because I've commented on their sites before and never got a response. I don't care how many followers you have, you're not too cool to respond to us smaller bloggers. 

I follow blogs that have 3 followers all the way up to 10,000. I cannot believe how much people are ignored. Now I have to say that it's a small select few, but it's still very frustrating. I may only have 260 followers, but I'm proud of that and I respond to every one of them. I also get help from bloggers who have a crap ton of followers. It's just this select few that apparently only talk to certain people. Whatever, if you think I'm not cool enough then I'm sorry. I understand that if you have 86 comments on one blog post every day, it can get a little tiresome. But if someone asks you a direct question more than once, don't you think you should take the 30 seconds and answer them? That's just my opinion. And what really sucks is, I LOVE their blogs! And I don't want to stop reading them, but I get really irritated every time I want to comment! Let me just say this for the record. If you leave me a comment and I don't email you, it's because your comment shows up with That means people can't reply to your comments. I know a few of you who comment all the time have this. You should update your settings, I want to talk to you!! 

#3 - All blogs are 6 degrees of separation. You find someones blog because of someone else, it's never ending. When someone new comments on my blog, the first thing I do is see if they have a blog. If they do, I check it out. If it interests me, I follow them. If I follow them, I leave them a comment so they know I'm a fan. In this "world", it can be a lot about self gratification. Sometimes though, it's just about making someone's day and letting them know you appreciate what they do. I'm not going to lie, I don't follow everyone who follows me. If I'm not going to take the time to read what you have to say, it's not worth wasting either of our time. I've followed and unfollowed a ton of blogs over the last couple of years. People that I read religiously 2 years ago may no longer post things that interest me anymore. It happens. Don't feel guilty. I'm all about giving people chances because people gave me chances. Your favorite blog may turn out to be the one that only has 8 followers and doesn't do giveaways every other week.

That's it folks! Thanks for listening to my little rant. I promise your regularly scheduled Everything According to Erin post will be posted in a couple of hours.

♥ Erin


Brooke said...

same thing happened to me. Won a huge giveaway. Never got anything. I unfollowed her PRONTO.

tara said...

I have won 3 giveaways that I never received!! Makes me so mad!

Chelsea Coleen said...

youuuuuuuuu are welcome for the collage info :) :)

ames said...

Yep. Really bugs me that certain bloggers only respond to certain people. Rude.

Frances said...

I liked this post. It's tough to live in the blog world and it's so easy to be annoyed by people. I mean, if you knew these people IRL it would be completely unacceptable to be treated like that.

PS: I've been trying to figure out how to take off the thing, and I finally figured it out, but I need to change my email address bc it has the wrong one...sigh.

Jessica Renee said...

Preach it, sister!! I agree 100% with you on this. I'm actually hesitant to do swaps now because I sent out a really good one to someone and never received mine. The person hosting the swap never even posted about the swap either!Just in case she's a reader of your blog, I'll leave it at that but it still pisses me off! lol.

It's just funny because you think everyone's so great in the blog world but their true colors come out sometimes and makes me realize, I would actually never be friends with this person IRL! Crazy.

Monica said...

I am 100% with this post! I never received some things I won in a giveaway and I was genuinely disappointed. Also I hate commenting on blogs and never hearing back especially when they are blogs I read every day!

fawn said...

It's so disappointing not to receive a prize. Almost as bad is having to wait several months to receive one. Power to conscientious bloggers, both big and small. :)

Holly said...

I love your honesty! I won a giveaway once and never received the jewelry. I contacted the person and she said someone had died in her fam and would get back to me. That never happened. I am sympathetic, but I just think it's rude to say you'll do something and then not do it. Pet peeve!

I also always try to respond to people who comment on my blog. I'm so appreciative of them taking the time to read my blog, the least I can do is respond. Usually I try to get back to people in 24 hours.

Heather said...

i feel you on this one! I've had so many other bloggers that i feel like just blew me off!
i can't believe that happened with the giveaway either!

Kristen said...

girl, you are singing to the choir here.

1. i can't believe that you didn't receive the basket. whenever i hold a sponsored giveaway, i'm always fearful that people won't receive it and will follow up w them to make sure they have and to let them know to contact me if they have any issues. even if it's coming from somewhere/someone else, it's still a reflection of you.

2. i hate when people don't respond back to you. it's happened to me before too, even to some bloggers that i've corresponded back and forth w before.

3. i do the same thing!

we are SO bbffs.

Neely said...

I won a giveaway from a "big" blogger a while back she never sent it and when I confronted her she said "wow you sure waited a long time. I would never ever not send a giveaway. I sent Ashleigh a giveaway a few weeks late and I felt so bad.

Also I respond to every email I get from someone asking blogging advice or help. Even if its to say "hey I have no idea." I think if you dont its shitty. Now sometimes It takes me a few days but I try to always respond.


Whitney @ Everything Happens For a Reason said...

I'm a new follower! :)

I found a place to do collages that was identical to picnik. It is called:

I feel ignored in the blog world at times. Sometimes I see blogs with 1/2 the followers I have and 3x the comments.

I can't believe that about the giveaway! I would have been pissed!!!

Whitney @ Everything Happens For a Reason said...

I also feel that certain bloggers only correspond with other bloggers. So cliquey. It sucks too, because I like their blogs! I sent some people an email MONTHS and MONTHS ago, and never received a response. I just give up sometimes.

Mrs. Williams {Persnickety Plates} said...

Amen to all of this!

Not even just with giveaways, but everything. If you say you're going to do something, do it! It's not that hard.

I need to start reading on the computer more & not just on my phone b/c, like this post, I read yesterday morning but am just now getting around to commenting. Anyway, I appreciate what you do. =)

Happy Friday!!

Carly Ann said...

I agree about the giveaway thing! I've heard of this happening to quite a few people, and it's happened to me once. Obviously blogging isn't about just winning things or whatever, but it's still very disappointing when you get excited about something only to find you've been lead on.
I also agree that just because someone may be following me, doesn't mean I have to follow them back. I will definitely check your blog out, but I'm not going to be guilted into following someone just because they may have commented on my post or followed me.
To combine the two, I don't like it when people have a giveaway that says you have to follow so and so to enter the giveaway. Sure, it's great to spread the word about blogs you love, but how many people are going to follow that person's blog because they like it, and how many are going to follow because they want the extra entry??
This is a long comment, sorry!